WIFE:A BETTER HALF OR BITTER HALF???

In Indo-Aryan languages,  "Patni", means wife. The woman who shares every thing in this world with her husband and he does the same, including their identity. Decisions are ideally made in mutual consent. A wife usually takes care of anything inside her household, including the family’s health, the children’s education, a parent’s needs.
In Tamil, a wife is known as a “Manaivee”. “Manai” means “house”, and “manaivee” “head of a household”. The majority of Hindu marriages in South India even now are arranged marriages, which means parents will search for bride / groom, through relatives, neighbours, contacts / aquaintances or even brokers. Once they find a suitable family (family of same caste, culture and financial status), they proceed with discussions directly. In the past decades, a marriage out of love has become a rivaling model to the arranged marriage.

Indian law has recognised marital rape, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse of a woman by her husband as crimes. The Britannica mentions that “Until quite recently, the only property of which a Hindu woman was the absolute owner was her strīdhana, consisting mainly of wedding gifts and gifts from relatives.”In Hinduism ,a wife is known as a "Patni" or "Ardhangini", "the better half". She takes all cares of her Husband and Family. In Hinduism, a woman or man can get married, but only have one wife or husband respectively.

wife makes / mars home :
In INDIAN cultures wife is defined as shakti. once she gets married she switches to her husband's family and takes care of the whole family and she starts leading the family.. like the face is the index of mind... similarly ghar ki Lakshmi smile and happiness creates prosperity and happiness. History says wife was 100% follower of husband uninterruptedly. They used to say for a wife husband is everything.. he is more than GOD.. "pati pratakshya divam" Rani mandodhari wife of demon ravan was so dedicated a woman, she could not oppose her husband as she strictly believes pati is GOD. Maa anasuya stopped sunset to save her husband's life.. If i go on there will be n number of facts where a wife has done everything to save her husband and created miracles... but all this history is past. Now She is a kali and is ruling this world..  she has started  doing everything including spoiling relations and cultures and attitudes and what not...no exceptions to him..

I hope demonic role she wears, as the ruler of kaliyug(present yug) has started her work... now why I'm saying this I find a sea change in a wife's role. Now a days wives do help husbands in financial matters as they work or run some businesses. females now-a-days are well educated and they score top ranks and maximum females are good in education. females are able to work in every field without any exception. I think there is a change for better with respect to females.

similarly mindset, desires, roles, attitudes and environment of family and basic needs of the that so called traditional family which existed in past have changed radically.These parameters have influenced and evolved the modern woman, the modern wife to have strong set of mind.Wives are able to argue with husbands, convince them and they are able to fight with them both literally, and in the spirit of it and they are ready to accuse / abuse husbands. Not only this now a days wives complain that husband hardly gives time and takes care and hardly love. when they get chance to fight in family or with husband they are in the forefront. The maximum interest in making money and earning name and fame is not shown in homes which spoils the relations and environment in home.

   wife as bahu or daughter in law is unable to do her duties to in laws and in turn in-laws are not so happy.This is common problem which is faced in every home. Similarly bahu is not happy with in-laws and above all now-a-days bahu is not taking much interest in giving samskar to children and they are only concerned in admitting them in international schools.

    I'm sure now-a-days bahu's are not behaving same as good old days bahu.  I don't  want bahu's to be like slaves but i dont want wives to be too dominative and try to control their emotions in family issues and above all try to control their ego's and try to control words while speaking with family members... It is a matter of balancing and who can do it better than the Woman. While the claim for rights is appreciable , what about the duties / responsibilities.

    Hope all females take it in sportive way and try to behave in harmonious ways with family and society.. Hope the balancing act balances the lives..